Originally Posted by
pdm22 
Maybe it’s one of those things where you just sort of “know” something is off. Just to clarify, mirroring is not an official trait of BPD, but you do see this kind of thing because unclear and shifting self image image is one of the traits. So are unstable relationships, and self destructive behaviors (which can include drug and alcohol use- but drug and alcohol use also cause changes in behavior, so you just don’t know..), among others.
Just throwing that out there, a few traits here and there doesn’t necessarily mean anything, and that may or may not be the case for him, but sometimes little red flags and our instincts are telling us something is “off”- it sounds like your instincts are picking up on something?
Yeah.. My Spidey senses picked up some weird stuff maybe 3yrs ago. Back when he was oh so slowly falling off the wagon. At one point I thought he had a minor stroke... Cos he got really dumb all of a sudden. Lost focus and that's when the memory started to go. He may have been 'kindling', and it hit him hard. Our son was still an infant so EXAH was probably already 'apeing'. Maybe mimicking as the lazy man's crutch. Things went downhill fast after that.