I'm so sorry, Leana, and I think I understand. Since my AXBF took asylum hundreds of miles away from me and our daughter, I've been raising her as an only parent (notice I didn't say single parent). I have to do everything by myself: work full-time, pay the bills, keep the house clean, feed her, discipline her, potty train her, etc. It is exhausting. And it's very unfair. And you're right, we're not supposed to say that as parents and guardians for fear of scorn.
Well, you'll receive no scorn from me, only compassion. Thank you for protecting that innocent child.