Originally Posted by
suki44883 
The thing is, what you have set down are rules for him to follow...not boundaries. Boundaries are like rules for you. A boundary would be something like I will not live with someone who lies to me. or I will not allow illegal drugs in my home. Then, you decide what you will do if these boundaries are crossed.
You can tell him to leave, but what if he refuses? It is his home, too, so what happens then? Are you prepared to leave? Are you prepared to file for divorce? These are questions you must ask yourself.
I understand. I did decide on those boundaries for myself, and he will need to leave if the boundaries are crossed. He doesn't have a choice. It is really my house. I owned it before we got together. But, I do understand what you are saying, and I am working on that. It will take me some time. I've been doing a lot of reading the past week about co-dependency, and I'm seeing a lot of things that fit me.