Trailmix - I totally agree, so much more going on here. It's so messed up, and it's been like this since 2010. And it got MUCH worse when I had our first child because then I really had no patience for the drinking, I had to be the grown up.
What do you mean by him not looking at the family as a 'whole'?
Ugh I just wonder if we'll ever be able to have a normal husband and wife dynamic. He's a very manly man when it comes to most aspects of his life, but how has he fallen under the child umbrella in our home. I want normal and I feel like I'm so screwed up from all of this that I have no idea what that even is anymore.