Hopeworks I am glad you have moved on and found peace.
Yours was one of the first stories I followed when I joined SR, and I will never forget it.
I encourage members who don't know your story to look back at your threads to see how bad life can get with an active chronic A, and also how one can learn to set boundaries, grow, and reclaim their life with grace and humor as you did.
I'm sorry he never found recovery. I kinda hoped he would and you guys would meet on that island for a date as you had once planned. Alcohol is a deadly enemy.
Best to you always HW