Originally Posted by
Linzey0706 
Swears he isn’t on drugs but wants to be able to drink beer when he wants to
Just to be clear - Beer is a drug. He's just switched drugs, nothing more.
So you had this guy, who was drugged most of the time. He was inconsistent, mean, unreliable, self centered etc.
What on earth did that add to your life besides drama and chaos? Then he wanders off because he doesn't like you reprimanding him about his drinking and finds someone else to hang out with - at the
bar.
Unless your life plan includes hanging out with him at a bar, do you see why he has left?
Your plan for him is not feasible, it's not what he wants. He wants to drink (and drink and drink).
You didn't Cause it, can't Control it and can't Cure it (the 3 c's).
Trying to change someone is not a good approach. He is an addict and that is what he is - period. You can't make him not be one.
This hurts, I know it does and I'm sorry you are involved in this. It won't always feel this bad.