I’ve got my ex’s ashes sitting in an urn in an office at work that I don’t use much at the moment. Sometime in the next year I’m going to be moving back into that office and I do not want those ashes sitting there forever. But I literally can’t give them away - his sisters won’t take them, his girlfriend has disappeared, none of his few remaining friends or his second ex-wife want anything to do with them, and Kid doesn’t want them in our home. I am the last person that ex would have wanted to have custody of his remains because he hated me. So I am going to have to ... dump them in the river? Toss them into a forest? Pour them into a compost pile? Whatever I do, it will be a sad ending to a life that was at one point full of promise. I think some major grief is going to hit me at that point.