Thanks so much Mo.
Up until recently I knew in my heart he wasn't even close to stopping so I left it alone...completely. Now I am thinking differently. He has had experience with a couple of rehabs..slipped up and is now sitting in jail 4 months after he celebrated 90 days in rehab. The consequences are coming faster now and he sees that too. Progressive.
Right now I think I will sit tight...I sent letters already and as his evaluation gets closer I will write again. I think my fear came from an overblown sense of my own influence. All I can do is be heard. After that it is out of my hands.
Hugs,
JT