Sweeti I believe of you cared about your mother you'd leave her in peace and stop feeling sorry for yourself and take cate of YOU.
You can't even take care of yourself right now and your mother has a right to convalesce in peace without drama and chaos
This is coming from someone who lost her mother to cancer at age 19.
This is just insanity.
And try putting some warm mineral (baby) oil on the cotton for your ear
Better yet, see a doctor.