Originally Posted by
BullDog777 
Scott, I am a control freak. I hate admitting that, but I guess it is what it is and I need to address it. I don't think anyone has pointed it out so bluntly, but I actually respect that more. So thanks.
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I am/was the same way and struggle with it daily. And I also hate admitting it but it's necessary for me to do so in order to change. A lot of my anxiety was/is rooted in my need/want to control everything as well -because it's impossible to do ( control ) so you always fail. And it self perpetuates.
To be honest the thing that helps me the most in this area is the concept of acceptance and mindfulness. I still see a counselor every month or so and we work on this more than anything. I actually have a mantra of sorts that I will even say out loud at times "is this for me?". You can apply it to just about any possible situation in life - from deciding what to make for supper to making large life changing decisions. And quite frankly, most times the answer is no - it's "not for me".