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Old 07-08-2019, 05:08 PM
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Sasha1972
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You can probably expect more testing/limit pushing with SoberLink. I have a whole catalog of SoberLink excuses which are funny in a sort of awful, bleak way. But if you hold the line and insist that nothing but a 0.00 at the scheduled time is acceptable, eventually you may be able to "train" XAH to comply.

A couple of thoughts:

1. You're not a controlling B. Blowing negative for alcohol is an extremely low bar to clear - if it were any lower, you'd be digging a trench. It is fine if he drinks himself into a coma for 98% of the hours in the week, he is only responsible for being sober for about 2%. He can still be a raving booze hound if he wants, he just has to not-drink for the very small amount of time he has contact with his kids. Your expectations could not possibly be less demanding.

2. SoberLink is a tool for him as well as for you. He can use SoberLink to show that he can be trusted to not drink around his kids, that he has everything under control, etc. And it's all objective and neutral. A reasonable person would say "bring in on!" when given the opportunity to demonstrate their sobriety with SL. (Indeed, some recovering alcoholics actually ask for SoberLink testing so they can re-gain the trust of their family and children).
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