Thanks Trailmix, Anvil, you make great points. Hopeful, Sasha, thanks for the input on wording for DS. I hate this crap. DH said "I'm doing this (the apartment thing) for us"...he wants to be able to prove himself, remain a family, and loves his son...but he doesn't understand how deep in he is.
Anyway, he's been working from home at our house to watch DS for two, sometimes three, days a week. I'm gone for 12 hours those days. I am debating just enrolling DS into a camp that will cost $400/month just for those few days per week. I feel like AH doesn't need to be trying to monitor DS while working, and I don't even know if he's maybe figured out how to pass SoberLink and still drink. Anyway...thanks for all the help. :-)