clearly intoxicated
Becca - during his "clean" time was he still drinking? nothing opens up the floodgates faster than adding alcohol. if he quit the pills but is still drinking, he's still using and keeping the beast alive.
i am sorry this happened. there really isn't ever a point in time when IT can never happen again, or the addict has arrived at a SAFE place in recovery.
it's not at all surprising that he lied about it. it's sort of the addict default position. deny deny deny. even when they are swaying, slurring, cross eyed and incoherent.
Things are definitely different this time around but I know how easy it is for him to slip back into active addiction.
he already did, Becca. he willingly and purposefully drank and took drugs. he stepped over the threshold of NOT using to USING.
will this be it? time will tell. please don't put TOO much hope in the fact that he was "honest" or willing to show you his bank account. he was only honest AFTER the fact and there are lots of ways to acquire drugs that might not be obvious on a bank statement. which may be why he is willing to let you see it.
addiction is cunning, baffling and powerful. also sneaky as hell. keep your guard up. keep your boundaries firm.