Kids safety comes first...
Would you leave your child in the care of teacher, baby sitter if they were still drinking/using AND saying they're trying to recover?
You'd kick em to the kerb. It's difficult, I know when you have feelings for an addict and you just want them to be OK again. We pretend to ourselves that he/she will be the one who recovers because we Need them back.. Whole.
If he's drinking... Using.. Sitting at home and doing feck all. He's not in active recovery.
He has to EARN trust. He needs to feel the consequences of his drinking etc. It may not make a blind difference. We can't police them back into sobriety!!