Originally Posted by
ReadyAtLast 
I think these things are as complicated as we make them. Being in recovery but going round bars looking for a gf who is so drunk she barely recognises you and then being given the come on by her friend seems pretty unhealthy behaviour.
You deserve so much better. I don't think we meet suitable life partners drunk in bars and clubs. Do you really want to be with someone who doesn't even recognise you or someone who hits onto her friend,s man.
That. And, I do know it's hard and confusing - and- but truly, it was those things at the time because I made them so by my choices to self-inflict v self-care, to mangle words.
Sobriety first, then clarity, then increasingly better decisions. I became someone deserving of good things and people as I became a good person who lived a good life myself. You can, too.