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Old 06-16-2019, 02:58 PM
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Cyranoak
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It doesn't matter...

...what matters is why you chose this man as your boyfriend and best friend. Please consider attending some Alanon meetings-- they are for you not him, and will teach you another way to look at boyfriends and friendship.

C-

Originally Posted by Leochic06 View Post
Ive been doing a lot of research on narcissim and alcoholism. My xabf dumped me a week ago and I'm trying to wrap my mind around what happened.

My thing is... My xabf fits some of the qualities of narcissism but not all. When we were in a relationship he would frequently say he lacked empathy. He wished he had it but he doesn't.

Also when the relationship was over I had a really hard time wrapping my mind around how he couldn't be sad over the relationship being over. I told him he was my best friend. His response: I don't have best friends. I'm own best friend.

On the flip side he was extremly sweet and giving. He always helped when asked.

So I struggle with labeling my xbaf a narcissit. I don't think he fully is one. Does narcissim exsist on a spectrum like austism?
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