Unfortunately I am an expert on both NPD and Alcoholism with my qualifier. While A’s are VERY selfish, so are NPD’s. But they ARE VERY DIFFERENT. When the two are combined, Boy-Howdy do you have a sh!t show! I hated my NPD for so long (who is also an A). Now, after learning about NPD, I just feel sorry for her. All that “wanting to get a reaction” is called “supply” - they are desperate for that. And the hatred they spew out is just a reflection of their self-hatred. So try not and take it personally and if you can, walk away. And never try to “correct” them. It doesn’t work and they see no wrong in themselves. They lack empathy. It’s futile to try to right the ship. Save yourself and forget about them.