I went to Al-anon for about 3 months a few years ago. It helped me at first. It's where I first learned about Co-Dependency. It definitely helped me to learn more about it and know that I wasn't alone or crazy. After a while, I felt like it was just helping me actually focus on it. I was tired of thinking about it and got tired of talking about it too.
You mean kind of like the alcoholic, talks about the drinking being a problem but then when too much focus is put on that issue itís time to stop the talks and bury heads in the sand again.
I think for the many people who begin to attend al-anon with the expectation of helping the alcoholic to stop drinking, there comes great disappointment.