I recorded myself on a good day telling myself why it's time to let get of my husband. I listen to it when I miss him and my mind starts straying to ideas (fantasies) of us getting back together. When I am feeling sad and lonely these fantasies seem like quite good ideas.
When I listen to the recording of strong, happy me telling myself to let go, it's so much more powerful than reading his old nasty messages. Yes, his messages reinforce the fact that I can't be with him but leave me feeling sad and hurt.
Listening to myself also reinforces that I can't be with him but leaves me feeling hopeful and confident that I can have good days. Some days I don't recognise that person, me, but is definitely me and I'm sometimes surprised by how together I sound!!