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Old 06-08-2019, 10:34 PM   #14 (permalink)
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Originally Posted by hopeful4 View Post
Thus enabling the addict protected them from their own consequences which enabled them to continue with the bad behavior and never accept they had to make a change.
That's basically what happened with family no matter how small or inconsequential the enabling seemed. But even when there were no favors like rides coming from family his gf would travel 20 miles to pick him up at or take him to a local bar. And when out of money his buddies/drinking buddies made sure he had plenty to drink or use.

If one didn't/ doesn't enable or validate his behavior he's always seemed to find someone who does-he even points out/boasts so and so had a dui too like it 's a badge of honor. And probably why his circle of friends changes every few years and get younger and younger now hanging out with people half his age.
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