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Old 05-18-2019, 04:24 AM
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tomsteve
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communication will help him tremendously.empathy and reassurance are good but its even better for him to learn what the effect on him is that is leading to the anger,frustration,and confusion. people dont get angry,frustrated, or cunfused without something internal happening. could be fears, self pity,insecurity,low self esteem...many other things it could be that all have solutions.
perse, you say hes not well equipped emotionally so ya have to help him learn the why of everything going on inside. safe spaces,sand boxes,stacking stones and all that dont address the problems - they reaffirm that its ok to have them and keep having them.
like giving a dog a treat when theyre behaving bad- its telling the dog its ok to behave bad.
that porch swing- ive had some awesome conversations on them. learned a lot about myself through those conversations.
there has to be communication with him. he is 11 and along with whats going on in both of your lives, hes ready to hit puberty.
pull the seatbelt on tight for that alone!
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