Welcome Frog
As an alcoholic I had to stop drinking but I also had to work at being happy in my life.
Sounds like maybe your husbands stuck on that second phase.
It took me about 3 months to work that out - so hopefully he may too?
If there's no sign of that there's not much you can do if he doesn't want to do any more than he's doing.
Like others have said, you'll find a lot of support here. Do also check out our Family and Friends forums too
https://www.soberrecovery.com/forums/friends-family
Do whats best for you and your children - it's a good rule of thumb.
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