Thanks for the reading materials trailmix. I have a professional interventionist who will be working with us.We are planning a loving intervention and of course my daughter/his step daughter who has been his stepdaughter for 15 plus years will be there and his sisters will be there too and of course his mother wants to be a part of the intervention too and I'm hoping she will be up to it,she had a few strokes last year and failing kidneys and she is in her 80's