This conversation reminded me of something I said in a different thread from a few years ago when a member posed a question to the board, she wanted to know if those of us that had left our qualifiers felt like we were escaping. this was my answer:
Originally Posted by
SmallButMighty 
When I left, it did not feel like escape, but it did feel like freedom. I had felt trapped, yet I didn't feel like I was fleeing... just letting go. He hadn't been holding me prisoner... I was a willing hostage. He wasn't going to change, I had to.
It hurt, a lot, but it was worth it.
Good Luck.
the whole thread can be found here if you are inclined to read it:
http://https://www.soberrecovery.com...-escaping.html