FallenAngelina

I was the "new" woman in my XABF's life, so for the first few years he was super honest with me and I heard every little detail about his real drinking, his other addictions and his exploits. I was shocked by how well oiled his manouvering and hiding techniques were, keeping much of the truth from his "old" family. I was amazed at what they couldn't see. Part of me worried that if he could keep so much from them that it was only a matter of time before he started keeping things from me. Secrets go hand in hand with alcoholism and codependence - and not only big secrets, but lots of little, everyday hiding and jockeying. I went cold turkey NC with him when he did indeed start shielding me from little and big truths of what he was up to, disappearing and carefully curating what he would share. It was heartbreaking.