About ninety days into my recovery work, it became clear to me that I had never been a "normal" drinker, was never going to be one, and therefore could never drink again. Ever.
That acceptance of never, ever drinking again was a great weight off my shoulders. I didn't have to obsess about when I might drink again, or what would happen if I drank...I don't drink. Period.
It's just a paradigm. Accepting you can never drink is one. Ghostlight's one-day-at-a-time is another.
What's common between the two? Putting down the drink and not picking it up. Are you ready for that?