Originally Posted by Chance219

This.

Lots of good in this thread.

People who know me don't even offer - people who do offer, I just politely decline:

"No thank you, but do you have diet soda?"

"I'm good, thanks!"

I've never had someone be rude or pushy, to my face, though. For cookout type stuff or informal gatherings I will often bring my own beverages: big travel cup of coffee, diet soda, etc.

I am curious as to why telling your in-laws is "not an option"? Being in recovery/abstinence if you have had a problem isn't something to be ashamed of, in my opinion. If you have made a conscious decision to not drink in order to improve your own life, and that of your spouse, why hide that fact?