Originally Posted by
hearthealth 
Maybe this is a normal relationship and I'm too selfish. Maybe I'm asking for too much.
I am sharing this that I posted (viola71 was my first username) in another users thread entitled Flipflop. this exercise was so very helpful to me, and I did it in general not with a specific individual in mind. Thought it might be helpful-
Thank you for this post. I struggle with this daily and question my sanity daily. My sister made me write down on paper what I want out of life including what I want with a spouse/relationship. What I saw when I was done was basic human needs it was shocking to me being in black and white. I wasn't even getting basic needs met and I didn't actually write down anything beyond that like a "normal" person might. Yet still I needed your post and to read all the replies today to make me trust myself. You are not crazy, you are not alone.