Thanks Trailmix, yes done research on child support / visitation etc. I believe he'll be a good father but know my rights, and his, if things were to get complicated.
I was doing no contact and then he showed up wanting to talk. I was happy to see him and so we've agreed on forgiving each other for not being the way want each other to be. I think that's a fair start on acceptance.
Thanks also Awal, yes taking it one day at a time, good not to think too far ahead now as you say. A calm pregnancy for a calm baby sounds great. I also recently started listening to The Power of Now by Eckhart Tolle. It's brilliant...really getting a lot from him. Being present as much as I can now. Thanks everyone xx