Did I do the right thing? Feeling guilty and sad
My alcoholic boyfriend has kept me on an emotional rollercoaster for the past 6 months, but the past month has been the worst! He has been in sober living facilities but relapsed multiple times, each time a little more spectacularly, I'm sad to say. He got a DUI in February, and was supposed to appear in court last week. This precipitated another major deep dive into the bottle. As the week went on it got worse, to the point that he was living in his car and drinking to a dangerous level. By Sunday he was having some medical issues, with numbness on one side of his body, and he started to talk about not wanting to go on. He has threatened suicide before, so that got my attention. I found him in his car, in a really bad state. I took his keys, and made him get in my car. From there I took him straight to the emergency room. He was so drunk he couldn't speak for himself, so I told the dr everything, including the suicidal ideations. After an evaluation he was involuntarily committed to a psychiatric facility an hour and a half away from here. He went in the ambulance so I didn't see where he ended up. It was very traumatic for him and me both, and now I'm feeling extremely guilty. He called me this evening, absolutely livid with me for putting him there. He said it isn't a hospital, it's a lockup with no medical care, and that now I have made his life worse than it was to start with. He no longer wants to have me in his life, which hurts a little but is understandable. I love him, but his addiction, and undiagnosed mental illness, have become unbearable for me, but is has been so hard to sit back and watch without taking action to help him. Should I have just left him drinking in his car, and just walked away from what might have happened? Is his anger a result of him facing the reality of where his addiction has taken him? Or is the fact that he blames me for putting him there an indication that he is still not ready to take accountability for his actions? I'm just feeling tired, confused and guilty about the whole situation.