Trailmix wrote on another thread:
"Self-esteem is the key."
I found the anxiety I used to have was trying to tell me something very, very important.
Listening to my inner needs, valuing my relationship with myself before the relationship with the alcoholic and taking new, intentional, kind self actions are a big part of my recovery from this Family Disease of Alcoholism. There are a whole lot of 'isms'!