People who love you - your actual friends - won't give a sh!+ if you drink or not. Won't matter to them a bit. And I think with your acquaintances who still drink, most of them won't care either. The only events I avoid completely are the ones that occur solely for the purpose of drinking. All others you will still be able to attend eventually. To echo others' advice, I think in the short term (a year??) you should strictly avoid all settings where alcohol is any sort of factor. But eventually you will still be with all of the people you love and care deeply about. You just won't be drinking with them. Trust me when I tell you that whole dynamic is not nearly as big of a deal as most of us self-centered addicts think it is. Good luck and keep posting.