Originally Posted by
nhwm 
Thank you tomsteve, your comments are very insightful.
I've never really looked at it that way. Why am I trying to literally stop her from doing things that harm us. I guess it's my natural response. I am thinking the lesson here, is that her actions are hers alone and my choice is to decide whether I wish to continue to be in a relationship where those actions occur, instead of trying to stop them from happening.
very good to read i made sense( i dont always do that
).
you can look at what youre going to do to protect you and your children,too.
as stated, its nothing new- i
might have had a wee bit of a problem with it.
the crazy thing?
didnt notice it until AFTER i got sober.
i was a wee bit of a mess.
