However, nobody has yet given an opinion on how they think my spouse not quiting her job reflects upon us. Anyone have thoughts about this? I feel it is awful insult to me and us, that she refuses to find another job.
It is an awful insult to you and to the marriage. The thing is, she is showing you with her actions who she is and how she intends to be. She did not quit her job and that says a whole lot about where her affair stands and where her marriage stands, sorry.