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Old 03-23-2019, 05:53 AM
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The AV of RR seems to be it's greatest insight, at least around here. And it is a clever way of describing the subconscious motivation that causes relapse, even in alcoholics with long term sobriety. I got interested in RR enough to check out their website because they are mentioned so often.

Their explanation of causes and reasons to quit are straight forward and to the point, but even most practicing alcoholics understand most of these insights already. You can recognize your cravings, mind games, and the need to stop or control your drinking from now until the cows come home, but no matter what program, self styled, court ordered, spiritual, rational, or popular, at some point the actual rubber meets the road for any alcoholic, where they have to quit for good. Quitting and restarting is not quitting. It's just drinking sporadically, and solves nothing.

Quitting is the hard part. Recognizing the AV is easy; Quitting is not. It takes more than words and thoughts. It's behavior change without intellectualizing. It must be forced with strength of will and commitment. Mind over body. The time for spinning thoughts while sitting in a chair in "intellectual heaven" becomes part of the irrelevant past. Now we have to stand up and do the actual housework.

You would rather drink? You would rather not commit? You would rather not to the necessary house cleaning? That's fine, but don't expect the house to clean itself. You will not receive the benefits of either a clean house or sobriety if you don't take the action.
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