"All we need to understand are “the 3 C’s”, which are:
We didn’t cause it – it is not our fault that the other person drinks, it is their private battle
We can’t control it – we have no power over the other person's desire to drink
We can’t cure it – it is an illness that cannot be cured through any known medical remedies
If you can start to consider alcoholism in the same way you consider other illnesses, such as diabetes for example, it will become clear that you are powerless over it.
We would not consider ourselves responsible for the cause of someone who has been diagnosed with diabetes, nor would we believe we have the power to control their diabetes by will alone, and certainly if science cannot create a cure for diabetes, we ourselves aren’t likely to be arrogant enough to imagine we will discover the vaccine…so why do we find ourselves taking a different perspective on alcoholism?" https://www.al-anon-sc.org/the-famil...lcoholism.html
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