Sometimes we have to choose between being right, and having peace.
I totally understand that you are committed to staying in this relationship, and that your goal is to detach. While I personally don't believe detachment is a long-term solution to living with an active alcoholic, if that is your goal, then you may have to give up on such things as "calling out for bad behavior."
Accepting that he is this way, and that nothing you do or say can change him, is the first step of true detachment.