samlynn…..I think that a good next step would be for you to talk to a person, on the phone, at your local domestic violence organization....Don't let that term scare you....as there are many types of abuse and you don't have to be hit to be abused....you would still qualify for their help. It can be completely anonymous....make sure that your phone doesn't have identifying info. that your husband can access.
They can offer many different levels of assistance, and have many kinds of resources available to he,...that you may not even know about. They are very understanding, and will help you to assess your situation and help you with planning....
They are used to dealing with situations such as yours.....just tell them everything, like you have told us...
I am giving you the following number to the National Hotline...and, they can help you locate the local number for you to talk to....
Domestic Violence Hotline......1-800-799-7233