Thanks everyone for your well considered replies.
Eddiebuckle, I should have put quotes around the, "no problem" as I personally see it as a problem and other posters have articulated that point very well. I love what you wrote about being connected, I am going through that so much now here on holidays with this AA group. Its actually showing me how disconnected I am, each day I push myself forward a tad with positive heart warming results.
Thank you you all