Hello loveblue,
I'm sorry to read you've had some unpleasant times lately with your father and your husband.
What do you want to see happen? What would make this a better situation for you? Is it the drinking? The fact that they can both become embarrassing in public? The bouts of disrespect? These are certainly all things worth being unhappy about.
I wish I could tell you some way to make them change, but unfortunately, none of us have the magic words for you to say that will change their behavior. They won't stop unless and until they decide they need to stop.
How do you want your life to look?