What August said.
Never got a DUI. Never lost a job. Homeowner. Socially active, well travelled.
Yet over a period of years it ended up with waking up in rehab in medical detox barely remembering how I got there.
Yet.
If you want to stop drinking and can't you are probably an alcoholic, regardless of which "level." Normal drinkers don't ask that question. They don't need to
Maybe that group is not right for you, perhaps AA isn't right for you. Just pick a method and a sober plan and go with it. Save yourself a lot of grief down the road.