Thanks everybody.
Thanks to God, my AA sponsor and a large support group I am getting thru this without any real difficulty.
When my wife moved out 6 months ago it was such a massive relief not to have to deal with her drinking around me everyday - but I lost it a few weeks ago when I found out she was with another man.
I didn't want her and felt like no one else should have her either. Probably just my pride. I just want to win - I want her to be miserable and realize sobriety is the way to live. But my sponsor tells me I have won - I am happy and sober and she is miserable.