Another thing I wanted to add. When we were using/drinking, we got used to the easy, immediate effects of the substance to make us feel good. Now we have to get used to waiting it out sometimes, and working at finding the things that give us pleasure. I am not known for my patience, so this was hard for me. I wanted that easy "high." Even if it meant a lower low each time I sought it out. I really had to learn to be patient with the process, and trust it. Slowly, over time, I became comfortable with not always having the ups and downs. Being steady and even (sometimes a bit boring) is highly preferable to the roller-coaster I was on before. Just took me some time to appreciate that.