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Old 03-06-2019, 07:24 PM
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MindfulMan
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How did it feel before the wine? How about after that glass of wine? Did it feel as good as you dreamed it would? How about the next day?

"Because I wanted to drink." WHY did you want to drink? What do you get out of it?

To me AVRT wasn't enough. I went through a cognitive based program where we analyzed the pros and cons of drinking (and the pros and cons of not drinking) and made it very explicit. We also went through and looked very carefully how cravings and relapses happen. Your description about how you know you're going to drink happens long before you actually do is how most people relapse. It's not always "Hey! Wine! Let's drink it!"

Here it is in a nutshell.

https://www.soberlink.com/three-stag...on-techniques/

Over my IOP these things became internalized. I found that recovery wasn't figuring it out. It was trusting in people, the process, and doing it rather than thinking about it.
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