Originally Posted by
Troubledone 
If she wants to marry this guy (they had planned to marry 2/22 except they were fighting too much to make it to the courthouse), then they better get used to helping each other out because they both have their fair share of dysfunction.
Marriage is an agreement between two ADULTS (sorry for shouting, I'm cranky). They need to grow up first. However, as they are chronologically in their 30s (and still abusing substances), you can't do anything about that choice... except maybe not give them expensive wedding gifts... or more money in any way, shape, or form. I say, "nay" to marriage between two people who don't have their **** together because I regret marrying my exAH who was mentally 13 years old but chronologically in his 30s. Must be worse if it's two substance abusers together cause they will both be addicts and codies at the same time. So complicated.