JamesSquire the important part of your story is that you are trying. In my situation he doesn’t see that alcohol is any way the problem and it is my trying to control him to stop drinking is the problem. Other than trying to set boundaries I do not harp on him about his drinking other than say please drink at home and don’t drink and drive. It is when I set those boundaries is what sets him off. He wants me to remain silent and submit to a life of wallowing in his self pity. Congratulations to you to want to get healthy. I hope you and your wife find your happily ever after.