Originally Posted by
Lunchbox1 
1) because I don’t trust his judgment with our youngest, who doesn’t completely despise him yet
2) finances and health insurance
3) dreading the narcissist’s revenge. Read up on what they do when you divorce them.
Trust your gut instincts. I hear you. I get it.
As I prayed and reached out for healthy support where I could, things started to change. Small changes start building momentum. (((hugs))))
Meditation and connecting with our own healthy inner voice sometimes brings us to taking actions of waiting, doing, staying, or whatever in illogical timing that again and again works out. The ability to feel and self-regulate our emotions is super important. We can't pass on to our kids what we don't have within us. This is where Al-anon, Celebrate Recovery and domestic violence help centers can greatly help (narc abuse is a very real type of abuse dynamic). These groups don't tell us what to do -- they provide safe spaces, tools and skills for us, for our own resiliency, support and growth.
There are many paths to healing.