Originally Posted by
Lunchbox1 
Of course now that he’s had his physical, he’s drunk again. And trying to pick fights, eg, “my cholesterol was good. How’s yours?” (I’m very overweight and we had a fight this morning because he was critical of my efforts)
i just want want to punch him in the throat. How do you handle drunken provocation? He texted me that because it pisses me off even more than his stupid mouth.
J A D E
Don't Justify, Argue, Defend, Explain
You are under no obligation to argue with him. Who defines you and what you are, him, or you?
Well the answer, of course, is you.
I went back and read some of your threads. These are the facts as you have presented them:
- He abuses you and your children
- He is alcoholic
- You fight often
- You find no joy in your marriage
- You believe you cannot leave because you won't be able to protect your children if you are not with them.
The truth is, you aren't protecting them now. They are teenagers, not little kids, if you divorce and there is a problem when he is with them, they can call you, or walk out the door and call you. They are fighting with him all the time now, saying "vile" things to him. That's not protecting them. He blames you for their poor behaviour. If you weren't there and he abuses them verbally, it is possible you could use the legal system to control when and for how long he gets to be around them.
There is no reason for you to stay with him, so the question you might really want to ask yourself is, why do you stay?