Michism…..lol....it probably shouldn't need to be said....but, Marriage does not, in itself, define a person's inherent value. I know that our culture gives this message to women, in lots of ways. However, this is not true.
I don't believe that people are "failures". Circumstances surrounding a person may go awray….but that does not indicate a person's inherent value.
Being married is not the only identity that a person can/should have. We all have many, many more dimentions.
Golly--I happen to know as many "messed-up" married people, as I know "messed-up" single or divorced people.....
The wiliness to seek out help and to be willing to do self examination are great indicators of self esteem, in my experience.....
Do you need that link that I spoke of?
I sincerely do hope that you will continue to read, here , and learn.....and to continue to post, yourself, as well as contributing your experience to the posts of others, on the forum.....
the more one gets involved, the more one gets out of this experience....