Just wanted to let you know you're not alone. I left my XAH three years ago, divorce was final almost 6 months ago, and I still get triggered every time I see a message from him. I'm really, really, glad I left, and have had more moments of peace and happiness in the previous 3 years than in the 20 when we were together. But when I see a message from him, I feel shaky and nauseous. I look forward to the day when those message will be few and far between.